

Dear photographers. Forget about your gear.
I have a photographer friend, well, acquaintance really, who calls me periodically. Most of the time I take his calls. but sometimes I just don't have the energy. You see, for me photography isn't about the gear. He's never learned that. For him, it's ALL about the gear. Photographers like to classify themselves according to their style. These days "natural light" photographers are all de rigueur. A natural light photographer, for the uninitiated, is someone who uses basicall


What Do I Do with My...
I was shooting with someone recently whom I've known for a while. She had put off and put off and put off doing a shoot, but then decided it was time. She came that day and she was noticeably nervous and I asked her why. "I never know what to do with my hands!" She said. "And this is going to be worse because I'm not really even wearing any clothes!" I laughed. That's such a common thing. It's as though all of the sudden hands become this awkward appendage we'd rather not hav


Am I "Bent?"
"Hey Jim, I was reading through your site and looking at the images and stuff and I got to wondering, are you really into the kinky stuff or is it just for photography?" That's a paraphrase but it's pretty close to the question she asked. My answer was and is pretty simple. I am absolutely kinky. For sure there are elements that are fun. But I've found that my relationships that explore kink are deeper, broader and more fulfilling than my vanilla ever was. There's something a